I have a new contact form on The Spike, which you may have seen, which has the prompt “Ask The Spike”. My plan was to use you, us, the collected Spike Brain (“brain”) to solve readers’ problems. A bit like Mumsnet but with fewer acronyms DYKWIM?
Up until now it has been used for people to just generally get in touch with me but today I’ve had an actual question! From Gail!
What do you do when you’re not sure what you want to do with your freelance ‘career’ any more. Because really it’s become stale, boring and shoe horned in around looking after your kids. How do you find that next ‘spark’ and make it work – and pay?
And I went WOW. This has literally been my life at many points over the last seven years. And, actually, at times my husband’s life. So, I’m sure, many other peoples’ lives.
Personally I choose to take a deterministic view of stuff like this. Do you remember the bit in Bridget Jones’ Diary where they talk about that slightly bogus thing of “struggle” and “flow”? It is bogus, but there is definitely something there. All it means is that sometimes the universe fights you when you try to make things happen, but if you just kind of sit there, bobbing along on the surface of life, something will come along eventually and you just have to be primed and relaxed to grab that opportunity.
I also very much subscribe to cosmic ordering – i.e. visualise what you want to happen, what you want your daily life to look like and concentrate on that and think broadly positive thoughts “Isn’t the future exciting?!” as opposed to “Why am I not as successful as X. Why am I not Y?”
Obviously at times I am the Queen of Negativity. I am crushed by feelings of helplessness and what do I think I’m playing at? I am Moaning Myrtle, my aura is toxic, I can barely leave the house, everything I touch turns crumbles to dust, I am right at the bottom of Fortune’s Wheel, my arse bumping along the bottom with the dust and the crap and the bits of plastic. And that state can last for hours, or days, or weeks. Once it lasted fully six months!
But sometimes just knowing that it all goes in cycles, combined with visualising what you want, rather than despairing over what you have, is one step towards a change. And, as my husband sometimes quotes from Rocky “It’s not about hard you can hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.”
How about you? What do you think? Let’s help Gail. Let’s help all of us.